Grace in Relationships

I love my friends. But I also often struggle with feeling responsible for the behavior and happiness of everyone around me. Can you identify? I will pretty much do whatever it takes to keep the peace and avoid conflict. But I?ve taken that behavior to the extreme. I will offer five hundred restaurants for my group of friends to choose from, but I do not want to be the person in charge of making that final decision. That?s too much pressure. I could choose the WRONG place.

As a recovering ?good girl? I?m learning that having grace-filled relationships doesn?t mean avoiding conflict at all costs. Ephesians 4 does remind us ?keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace,? but I would be doing a disservice to my friendships if I never expressed my own opinion. Loving someone doesn?t mean just appeasing them. Love wants the best for another, even if that process is initially painful.

?Wounds made by a friend are intended to help, but an enemy?s kisses are too much to bear.? (Proverbs 27:6, GWT)

?It is so hard to receive criticism, but if you can?t you are showing one of the prime characteristics of a fool, according to Proverbs. Understandably, it is easier to receive criticism from someone who really loves you, but even then, it is always hard to listen to something that will bring you pain? I believe that one of the purposes of best friendships is to help one another recognize blind spots.? (Dee Brestin, The Friendships of Women)

My desire for approval sometimes puts me on the defense when it comes to receiving constructive criticism in my life. But thankfully, a new understanding of God?s grace is changing the way I give and receive love. His grace frees me from the need constant approval. Living in light of grace means that love is the highest priority in all relationships.

?Grace isn?t natural, but supernatural. The natural responses when you get hurt are either to strike back or to withdraw. When we instead step out of the way and allow God to work through us, responding with unfailing love, even perennials that have endured a deep freeze may lift up their wilting heads and live.? (Dee Brestin, The Friendships of Women)

How does God?s grace transform your relationships?

Following and learning,
Ginger

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?Because we are loved and known by a graceful God, we are free to relax our shoulders, unclench our fists, and open our hands to receive all he has to offer. And the best thing he has to offer is, quite simply, himself.??(Emily P. Freeman,?Graceful: Letting go of your try-hard life.)

Source: http://www.gingerciminello.com/2012/10/11/grace-in-relationships/

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