The Inner Hoe Theory: Connecting Emotions & Sex Pt.1 ? Goddess ...

I remember how lonely bed time was for the first few weeks after I first broke up with my first love (Remember Mr. Cohabitation?) I was nervous and the empty pit in my stomach at night time kept me from sleeping properly. I didn?t miss him or long for his company but I was nervous about living for myself, on my own. Our sex life had become non-existent and laid buried six feet deep in a bottomless pit (huh?).

Sexually he was quite conservative with me and I knew deep inside and from stepping out of the relationship (not an angel) towards the bitter end that I wanted to explore. I wanted to experience what my other girlfriends had- variety options and excitement- at least I thought I did.

I?ve never been comfortable with choosing a promiscuous lifestyle. I?ve always believed that my goods were not for mass distribution, plus I had bible passages hammered to my spinal cord, so I danced on the borderline of wanting to be sexually liberated and ?chose? for years. ?In other words I had no idea what I wanted.

I must admit most of my relationships have had a sexual edge that far outweighed any other component. I simply did not know how to make the transition to connect emotionally with a lover. Could one even make the transition when sex was one of the distracting surface elements of a relationship?

Overtime while I scratched my head I began to become more accepting of my sexuality. I love sex, I love sharing with a lover and I love trying new things. I also accepted that I have deep emotions that are enhanced with sex and I deserve to be loved and cherished in and out of the bedroom.

I posed a new challenge to myself. I would accept my unquenchable thirst without compromising my value and self-respect. I promised myself I would put my effort and love into connecting with partners who were equally yoked instead of looking for an archetype that I did not conjure in my own universe.

I believe everyone has an inner hoe, and I use that term lightly. And I?m not judging or forcing my little theory on anybody but I simply believe that we all have the deep need to be sexually liberated and cherished at the same time.

For most of us our sexual energy that lies deep at the base of our spine is scary. It?s powerful because of the mind numbing sensation we get when we reach the epitome of pleasure- it?s a powerful and addictive feeling.

That energy can hook and numb us or it can take you to new heights. I know that some religions have decrees to help us ignore or keep this energy dormant. To me this is unfair and not necessary to live a life of quality and service.

I respect everyone?s beliefs whether they are abstinent, a call girl or smack dab in the middle but I?ve noticed that the way we have been taught to view sex in western society for the most part is more dysfunctional than it?s ever been. The more you ignore something the stronger it becomes until you?ve accepted or embraced it. A hoe generally craves attention so they put out without remorse or reason generally using sex to numb pain. You may not be promiscuous now or ever but do feel like you numb parts of your sexuality or being to appease others?

In this new series we?ll explore how to connect emotions and sex. I?ll also take you on my journey from being sexually dormant to being equally yoked with my sexuality and emotions.

Oh oh oh you may just wanna save a seat in my exclusive online Relationship Vision Workshop that will start up again in mid-August. We deal with topics like commitment phobia, breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, personal needs, forgiveness and setting personal boundaries. The best part is that you can choose to remain anonymous throughout. Email me for more details: contact@goddessintellect.com

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